Well, surgery won't happen tonight. The surgeons' communication skills leave a lot to be desired with regard to the time of surgery. Marshall was left hanging all day long, no food, no water. Not good. So we assume surgery will be tomorrow.
By the time Marshall knew there would be no surgery tonight, it was too late to get dinner, so a wonderful nurse went out and got him a cheeseburger. He said it was delicious, he was so hungry.
The palliative care people came in (5 of them) and spent several hours with us today talking about pain management, power of attorney, what we want out of life, etc.
The chaplain came by for an hour and we chatted and prayed.
Over the course of the past year we met a patient advocate and we have built a great friendship with her. She came by today and spent quite a bit of time with us. She also found a renowned prostate cancer oncologist in New York who is willing to look at all of Marshall's records and give us a second opinion, so over the next few weeks we will be gathering all records to send off to him. He agreed at this point that going ahead with the surgery and radiation is exactly what Marshall should be doing right now.
Then he said that Marshall needs to work diligently on building up his strength and getting strong enough to tolerate chemotherapy. He will elaborate further after he has been able to review Marshall's records. It will be great to get a second opinion. There is always hope.
Tomorrow while Marshall is in surgery I'm going to look at a house. It is becoming more and more crucial that we get Marshall closer to medical care.